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Knowing When to Stop Teasing Her

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People are confusing. We know it, you know it: it’s just a fact of life. When it comes to women we are in relationships with, however, it seems like everything just gets that much more difficult. Unlike reviews of casual dating sites that can tell us what we are getting ourselves into and what to look for when we’re lost, however, girlfriends don’t come with friendly reviews. The closest thing we get tends to be the angry ex-boyfriend and who really wants to deal with him anyway? When it comes to teasing someone, knowing their limits can be difficult at best, but particularly so if she has been sarcastic and generally easy going for most of the time we have known each other. So how can you know when enough is enough?

She Tells You to

“Stop it, right away”

This may seem straight forward, however the amount of times guys think being in a relationship with someone suddenly overrides the fact that they are being told point blank to stop something is probably about equal to the amount of times they have been dumped and did not know why. The fact of the matter is that the rules of engagement don’t suddenly change just because you both decided to be in a relationship with each other. If she tells you to stop teasing her, it’s probably because she actually wants you to stop. It’s not rocket science, but somehow this is a very difficult thing for many of us to understand. We wish we knew the source of it, but what we can tell you is that enough women have commented on this for it to be worth mentioning regardless. So whatever else is going on and however she says it, if she tells you to stop, then stop.

We don’t just mean for that particular moment, either. We mean not bringing it up again at all. If she asked you to stop teasing her about her hair not cooperating a year ago, chances are she does not want you to start up on it all over again just because you managed to stay together during that time. We can already tell some of you are thinking about exceptions. What if you are both laughing about something? What if she sounds sarcastic? The thing here is that you can never really know for certain whether it is something that actually bothers her or not. Most of the time, women aren’t going to want to give you a break down in equal clarity to reviews of casual dating sites. Most of the time, they will just tell you to stop and get mad when you don’t, and for good reason. Stopping is a matter of basic respect. Apologizing, or asking her why are optional, stopping is not. This is true even when you are dating Canadian hotties. Here are the top 5 dating sites to find hot women in Canada. You can read casual dating website reviews and choose a hot Canadian woman for dating.

When She Starts Crying

“It is time to stop teasing her and start comforting her”

This should be a pretty sure sign, but there are a lot of cases where it feels like she cries at the drop of a hat, and so the instinctual reaction becomes, instead, to ignore it. While understandable, unless she has already told you to ignore her crying, which women actually will if particularly prone to this, chances are you should probably stop. The thing is that crying comes much more readily to them, whether or not they are actually feeling sad, scared or hurt. A lot of the time, they could just be stressed or angry and the tears will start and they have no control over it. None. Zip. Zilch. Don’t fool yourself into thinking otherwise. Do not believe the hype about using it to control you. Do not stop go, do not collect – well, you get the picture.

You don’t have to take our word for this, however; a quick internet search should tell you all you need to know on the subject of women and crying. What we are here to tell you is specific to teasing and the fact that no matter what has actually triggered the tears, stopping is the best response to them. Pretty much all of the time. Don’t tease her for crying instead. Lots of guys get nervous when women cry, and it is perfectly understandable. What is not so excusable is the fact that they tend to make dumb decisions as a result. There is no more reason to commit yourself to the Ottawa bar crawl as your only possible method of hooking up than there is to freeze up and spit out more offensive, bad decisions as a result. Train yourself, instead, to stop. Try apologizing and asking her if it really is bothering her. We promise that most of the time, she is actually going to answer.

The Topic Becomes Taboo

“You have taken it too far”

Okay, so this one is less obvious and can take a bit of poking and prodding to get the bottom of. What it comes down to is the simple fact that the longer we are in relationships with someone, the easiest is to know what you can and cannot bring up around them. Just like reviews of casual dating sites can tell you what to expect of this or that dating site and the people you can find there, just being around someone long enough will train you avoid certain topics of conversation. The key here is why. Are you refraining from bringing something up because you know it makes her upset, or do you only feel comfortable joking about it rather than making serious commentary? If it is the latter, you may want to consider actually asking for her input on the topic. If she does not want you teasing her over it, being confronted by the fact that neither of you can really approach it nor you only feel comfortable enough crack jokes about it is a good way to get to the bottom of the avoidance. If it is something she genuinely does not want to hear about, she is going to tell you. If it is something she does not want to bring up because of how you teased her before, it may take some coaching and an apology, but she will tell you that too, eventually.

She Forgoes Other Things Because of It

“She starts to question her confidence”

You can consider this a bright red siren when it comes to hints that something is actually a much bigger problem than you thought. When she is avoiding being in a situation she would normally be up for, reconsider your teasing and definitely sit down for a chat. As an example, consider someone who is somewhat of a social butterfly. This person is constantly at events, and constantly hanging out with friends, constantly wanting to go on dates. Now say you have been giving her what you consider good-natured barbs ever since she got a new haircut. Soon, she does not want to go out as much. She comes up with reasons not to meet people or seems to suddenly prefer staying in to going out. This is someone trying to avoid things they used to like, and in this case it is pretty clearly connected to insecurity about her appearance. It will not always be so straight forward, but once you start seeing avoidance, you should know at least that something is not right.


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